I Was in Denial for Far Too Long

I felt embarrassed after I figured out that my husband was cheating. I had always thought it odd that friends did not catch on quickly to the fact that their own husbands were cheating until it had been going on for years. Then, it happened to me. The number one thing that helped me was to figure out how to spy on Snapchat so that I could get a really good look at what he was up to with his account. A friend taught me how to do it with the help of a program that had worked really well for her. Without her help, I would not have found out what I needed to know so quickly.

I waited until I was 30 years old to get married. I had heard so many times about how getting married when you are in your early 20s can cause so many problems for couples. When you are only 20, you are considered an adult, but you still have a lot of growing up to do. So, I focused on finishing college and then finding a good job. I dated, but I didn’t want to be tied down to anyone permanently at that age. I wanted to take my time to find someone who I knew would be perfect for me. I wanted to make sure that I found someone that I could spend the rest of my life with. I thought that I did that, but now I understand that you can never really know these things ahead of time.

When my husband began coming home late, he told me that he had business meetings that he needed to go to. I believed him. I kept his dinner warm. I made sure to welcome him home after those late night business meetings. But one night, he smelled of women’s perfume. That is when I opened my eyes. He denied it, but I knew he wasn’t being honest. It was only with the help of my friend that I was able to look at his Snapchat account and see that he was having an affair.